Mindfulness, emotional intelligence, focus, personal development and confidence building book recommendations

blog feb 2018

Struggling to entertain yourself whilst you are snowed in?

 

We live at a time when there are more self-help books on the market than any one person could hope to consume in a lifetime. But in today’s world, finding the time to read even one book, let alone a dozen, can still pose quite a challenge.

To make it easier for people like you with hectic lifestyles, rather than spend hours looking for the most acclaimed self help book, I have come up with the most popular mindfulness, self-improvement and counselling books from my client library:

Key themes covered include: mindfulness, emotional intelligence, focus, personal development and confidence building:

 

1. Screw Work Let’s Play by John Williams

2. Free Range Humans by Marianne Cantwell

3. Stop Talking Start Doing by Shaa Wasmund

4. What’s Stopping You?: Why Smart People Don’t Always Reach Their Potential and How You Can by Robert Kelsey

5. Mindfulness: Finding Peace in a Frantic World by Professor Mark Williams, University of Oxford and Danny Penman

6. The Artist’s way by Julia Cameron

7. Ask and it is Given: How to Manifest the Law of Attraction by Esther and Jerry Hicks

8. The Happiness Advantage by Shawn Achor

9. How to Save an Hour Every Day by Michael Heppell

10. Overcoming procrastination by Dr Windy Dryden

11. Subpersonalties by Dr John Rowan

12. Meeting the shadow by Connie Zweig

13. The Slight Edge by Jeff Olson

14. It’s not how good you are it’s how good you want to be by Paul Arden

15. Freedom from your inner critic by Jay Earley and Bonnie Weiss

16. Perfect Love Imperfect Relationships by John Welwood

17. Sane New world by Ruby Wax

18. The Chimp Paradox by Stephen Peters

19. The six pillars of self esteem by Nathaniel Branden

20. Boundaries and Relationships by Charles Whitfield

21. Boundaries where you end and I begin by Anne Katherine

22. The Self-Acceptance Project: How to Be Kind and Compassionate Toward Yourself in Any Situation by Tami Simon

23. The Mindfulness and Acceptance Workbook for Anxiety: A Guide to Breaking Free From Anxiety, Phobias, and Worry
by John P. Forsyth and Georg H. Eifert

24. The Compassionate Mind Approach to Overcoming Anxiety (Compassion Focused Therapy) by Dennis Tirch

25. The little book of Ikigai – The essential Japanese way to finding your purpose in life by Ken Mogi

26. What you think is what you get – An introductory textbook for the study of the Alexander Technique by Donald L Weed

 

This will keep you out of mischief on a cold winter’s evening tucked up with the cat, dog or your laptop on the sofa or when later in the year you are sipping a refreshing cold gin and tonic on a sunny beach

so as one of our favourite authors states: “stop talking start doing” …….

 

Relationships are key theme for Mental Health Awareness week 2016

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With ever increasing pressures at work, home and in personal relationships, there are bound to be occasions when it seems difficult to balance the demands of everyday life. As our economy has often been going from boom to bust, what is becoming increasingly evident in today’s therapy consultation rooms is that so too do many relationships.

Even a stable economy does not guarantee a stable relationship. But now, as we worry about an unpredictable future our connection to our partners becomes progressively fraught.

So what is preventing most of us from going home tonight and engaging in some good old-fashioned sex? Research indicates that there are a range of reasons for this but those most common are:

 

  • Lack of libido due to exhaustion and working excessive hours
  • Lack of work life balance
  • Feeling ashamed of your body image because of over indulgence in diversionary activities such as excessive food and alcohol intake to cope with work-related stress
  • Shame following loss of financial status such as men struggling to deal with the loss of their “breadwinner” role and women becoming increasingly frustrated if they are the only income earner in the household
  • Dependency fears
  • Unpleasant performance-related memories emerging from negative programming from family and parents
  • Worries about an uncertain future Sound familiar?

Some of us were already stuck in a sex rut before the credit crunch/recession, and thousands more are now vulnerable as a result of it. Stress, depression and anxiety are key inhibitors of libido. Furthermore when you’re stuck in a rut, or feeling sexually disconnected from your partner, it leaves you more prone to cheating, porn abuse, or just a general sense of detachment.

Sex is less expensive than the tv, more stress-relieving than most activities and better for your well-being than antidepressants.

Having said this, sex doesn’t offer miracle solutions, reshape the world or make your problems vanish. Nonetheless it often leaves you feeling revitalized, rejuvenated and more solid and united as a team to face the future. Sex helps people to develop and maintain a good foundation of love, intimacy and connection. Want to recession-proof your relationship?

Then consider these simple tips:

  • Honest “face to face” communication of your feelings with your partner can often prevent a breakdown in the relationship. If a crisis such a decrease in earnings, redundancy or harassment at work occurs choose an appropriate moment to discuss this. Ideally in a quiet environment and avoiding where possible occasions when one of you is tired, hungry or has drank an excessive amount of alcohol.
  • Avoid the use of email, skype and mobile text messaging as they can often lead to misinterpretations and misunderstandings
  • Spend quality time together at weekends or at the end of the evening by turning off the television and your computer. Don’t obsess about the future and your next work achievement – connect in the present!!!
  • If you feel too exhausted and are suffering form a loss of libido, engage in unplanned acts of intimacy such as holding hands, kissing, giving your partner a long hug or massage or taking a candle lit shower or bath together
  • Demonstrating higher rates of appreciation for each other is also absolutely key adopting simple gestures such as saying thank you following meals and for your support.
  • Accept that you cannot change what happens in the world but can change what happens in your home life.

Still struggling with relationship issues after reading this blog? Then you may benefit from relationship counselling.

Everyone struggles in their relationship at some point in their life, but for some people it can be an ongoing problem, Sharing your issues in a safe, supportive, confidential environment with a Counsellor or Psychotherapist often helps.

Most commonly we think about relationship problems developing in intimate relationships with a partner, but there may also be problems with family members; children; and friends and work colleagues too.

Benefits of Relationship Counselling

  • Relationship Counselling can often bring clarity, peace of mind and the answers to the problems that you are struggling with
  • Exploring your thoughts with a professional, non-judgmental Counsellor or Psychotherapist can make you feel less alone and more able to sort out your thoughts in a productive way
  • When your thoughts are muddled, decision making can be tough.  Counselling is a collaborative relationship, which can help you to develop realistic plans to feel less stuck and to move forwards
  • Relationship Counselling can give you a greater degree of self-awareness and understanding of yourself and others, can help you to improve your self-esteem, and become more reflective in your personal relationships
  • Your life can suddenly begin to feel more enjoyable and fun
  • Relationship Counselling sessions can provide you with more direction and confidence, and with strategies how to handle conflict, develop to your full potential and to achieve goals
  • Relationship Counselling can help you to understand why arguments escalate and learn how to set healthier personal boundaries
  • Instead of going round in the same old circles, Relationship Counselling can show you how to have different conversations with the person you are struggling to communicate with