{"id":385,"date":"2014-10-08T09:42:16","date_gmt":"2014-10-08T09:42:16","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.thebeingpractice.com\/?p=385"},"modified":"2020-03-30T14:24:36","modified_gmt":"2020-03-30T13:24:36","slug":"saying-no-nicely","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.karendeeming.com\/index.php\/2014\/10\/08\/saying-no-nicely\/","title":{"rendered":"Saying no nicely – Part One"},"content":{"rendered":"
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    The act of saying no is simple it takes a second. It\u2019s not saying no that bothers you it\u2019s the consequences that concern you.<\/p>\n

    You can do this by using words and phrases such as:<\/p>\n

    Thank you for asking me<\/p>\n

    That sounds interesting<\/p>\n

    I\u2019m honoured to be asked<\/p>\n

    That\u2019s really kind<\/p>\n

    avoid using but as it carries negative connotations and instead use words like and however.<\/p>\n

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    Leave a positive lasting impression \u2013 good luck<\/p>\n

    let me know how you get on ask me another time or I\u2019d love to know how you get on.<\/p>\n

    Question<\/p>\n

    I\u2019m organising an amazing event and I\u2019m looking for someone just like you to help with the organising. It will be great fun and it\u2019s all for a good cause.<\/p>\n

    Answer<\/p>\n

    Wow well first of all thanks for asking. I\u2019m honoured. However, I\u2019m going to miss this one as I\u2019m committed to several important things at the moment which all need my time and attention. It wouldn\u2019t be fair on them, or you, if I said I could get involved with something else and then did a poor job with everything. Let me know how it goes though.<\/p>\n

    Saying no to your boss<\/strong><\/p>\n

    Question<\/p>\n

    I\u2019d like you to take on Customer Service while Sally is on maternity leave<\/p>\n

    Answer<\/p>\n

    Wow thank you for thinking about me. It sounds like a great project and I\u2019m up for a challenge. To take it on and do a brilliant job I need your help. Could you help me to find a couple of hours a day by reassigning some of my other responsibilities? I know James has done data input in the past so he would be great at that.<\/p>\n

    Time saving examples<\/strong><\/p>\n

    Q Would you buy a newspaper when you drop Charlie off at the scouts?<\/p>\n

    A Yes of course. And I need your help with something. Would you empty the dishwasher while I\u2019m out.<\/p>\n

    Q Could you take care of the phones while I\u2019m away? Ill be back in an hour or so.<\/p>\n

    A No problem at all, and actually you could help me. Would you mind dropping this off at the Post Office while you\u2019re out?<\/p>\n

    \u201cI would like you to read this information I wrote about assertiveness.\u201d This is an example of an assertive statement.<\/p>\n

    Here are some more examples:
    \n\u2022\u00a0\u201dThanks for your suggestion.\u00a0 I\u2019ll take that into consideration\u201d
    \n\u2022\u00a0\u201dNo, I am not busy on Tuesday, but I want to keep it that way.\u201d
    \n\u2022\u00a0\u201dCould you tell me more information so that I can understand what you are trying to say?\u201d
    \n\u2022\u00a0\u201dI will have to get back with you about that.\u201d
    \n\u2022\u00a0\u201dI think I understand what you are saying, but I am in disagreement.\u201d
    \n\u2022\u00a0\u201dWhen is a good time for us to talk about something that has been bothering me?\u201d<\/p>\n

    I feel you are being very aggressive toward me.<\/p>\n

    I get upset when you start shouting at me.<\/p>\n

    I statements<\/strong> make for great conversation openers because blame is avoided, and may allow the other person to save face or take responsibility before becoming emotional. If you are used to arguing with someone and suddenly try this, you may get quick improvements in communication. If the other person becomes aggressive or passive you can continue with \u201cI\u201d statements.<\/p>\n

    For example, \u201cI will continue this discussion when we both agree not to name call.\u201d Or for the passive person, \u201cI realise that you are not ready to talk with me and I respect that and I know I can\u2019t make you. I will be ready when you decide to talk.\u201d<\/p>\n\t\tYou can book your appointment here\u00a0<\/a>or you can contact me on\u00a0 (044) +7950 751352 for outside the UK or 07950 751352 inside the UK.\u00a0 Alternatively\u00a0 by email: karen@karendeeming.com<\/a>.<\/strong>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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