Do you have a hectic lifestyle and want to make positive life changes but precious little time to make them?
For those of you who didn’t get the opportunity to read tips one, two, three, four, five, six, seven, eight and nine of my blog for people with hectic lifestyles who want to make positive life or career changes see:
Tip Nine: http://www.karendeeming.com/index.php/2015/09/03/tip-nine-for-people-with-hectic-lifestyles-who-want-to-make-positive-life-or-career-changes/
For those of you who did read my other tips, you will recall me saying that over the next few months, I’ll be sharing with you the mindfulness, self help and personal development techniques and tips that helped me to:
- Escape the corporate cage, that is, my well-paid secure job and hectic lifestyle in London
- Move from London to live in the idyllic countryside and do my dream job as a successful Psychotherapist, Coach and Mindfulness Teacher helping 1000s of clients at my Liverpool Street and Harley Street Practices and nowadays at my online, Bristol and Somerset Practices sometimes advising film Directors, such as Mike Leigh, on the authenticity of film narratives.
Though I am now doing my dream job, living in a delightful Somerset village and have many tools at my disposal, life is occasionally still tough so I’m sharing some tips to help you remain motivated, and focused when you are feeling stuck, overwhelmed, lost or you are falling victim to ”l’m too busy and don’t have enough time” and procrastination trap.
Tip Ten, self care and how to create your ideal, dream life
What are the benefits of self care and creating your ideal, dream life?
You will begin to:
- feel less irritated, stressed, resentful, exhausted, guilty and overwhelmed
- experience more joy and happiness because more time will be spent doing the things you really want to rather than a life just full of to do lists and things that you have to do
- sleep better and as result increase your energy levels
- experience more peace of mind, a sense of clarity and feel more focused
Heath and well being are your most important assets and investments, without these, you may experience exhaustion, illness, burn out and struggle to be as productive and as successful as you could be at work. Put simply: Health = Wealth.
What is self care exactly?
There are many definitions of healthy self care. As I like to keep life simple, I break it down into four distinct categories:
By this I mean incorporating at least one hobby and activity into your daily routine such as: mindfulness, yoga, pilates, tai chi, qigong, art and crafts, reading a novel, playing a musical instrument, surfing and gardening. What’s key here is allowing yourself to enjoy the journey rather than the arriving, in other words, undertaking the activities at a slow pace it’s not a competition.
Include at least one of the following activities at least four times a week into your daily routine:
In terms of mood, I believe we are what we eat!!
I am not referring to a miserable life of fasting, food deprivation and diets.
What I mean by this is the introduction of a healthy daily diet consisting of mostly fruit, vegetables, seeds, fish and less fast food, red meat and carbohydrates.
For example, over the past few years, I have gradually reduced my daily bread, rice, pasta and sugar level intakes and only eat fast food and take aways about twice a year if at all nowadays.
As a result, I have noticed how less tired and sluggish I feel and how I feel increasingly more energetic and motivated.
My new motto is moderation not deprivation.
Adopting healthy sleep patterns
I go to bed most evenings before 11pm with the aim of sleeping for at least 7 hours.
Research indicates that engagement in emails and social media activities such as a facebook and twitter can overstimulate the mind resulting in difficulty sleeping.
So as part of my daily bed time routine, I ensure that I cease sending emails or engaging in any type of face book, twitter or other types of social media activities for at least two hours before going up to bed.
Do you include relaxation, exercise and diet into your daily routine?
If the answer is no then your work life balance or levels of self care are probably not as robust as they could be and you are not alone in this very common dilemma.
Most of us put work above family, friends and hobbies or have struggled with time stress at some point in our lives.
We are not taught about the significance of self care and work life balance at school, so how can we be expected to know how to create our ideal dream lives?
I believe self care and the art of work life balancing should be a mandatory item on the school curriculum.
How do you put self care strategies into practice to create a healthy work life balance?
Following extensive self care and boundary setting training on my Psychotherapy Master’s Degree and from attendance at several personal development courses, the knowledge I acquired , outlining how to create a timetable that reflects my ideal, dream week, has made a significantly, positive difference to my life and health and well being.
- I mostly now do things that I want to as well as have to
- My energy levels have increased, as I no longer experience high levels of time stress, caused by previously booking up my diary months ahead, as a result of over committing myself, saying yes to most social and work-related events and spending too much time on face book and twitter
- My moods are mostly positive because I no longer eat fast food, I also find it helpful to limit myself to watching only 1.5 hours of television most evenings
- Nowadays, I rarely feel tired, resentful and guilty
At least five days a week my daily timetable looks like this:
8.30am – 9am Mindfulness Practice
9am – 1pm – Work
1pm – 2.15pm – Running then lunch
2.15pm – 6.15pm – Work
6.15pm – 6.30pm – Mindfulness Practice
6.30pm – 10pm – Family, Friends and Leisure time
10pm – 11.30pm – Read a novel.
Over to you:
If after reading this blog you are still struggling to know how to achieve a heathier work life balance and are feeling overwhelmed with distractions and negative thoughts because of this, don’t panic or give up just yet.
Counselling, psychotherapy sessions or a personal development or mindfulness course can help you.
So, if you need a bit of extra support and encouragement and a few on line, telephone or face to face counselling or mindfulness sessions why not contact Karen Deeming to arrange an appointment or for a short free introductory chat on 07950 751352 or send an email to: firstname.lastname@example.org.